This is a great question and I am glad that Cassy brought it up over at www.youserved.com.
And they didn’t deploy thinking, YES, I get a break from my kids now!! Woo-hoo!. I think this is one of the most ludicrous claims that I hear — that staying behind is so much harder because you have to deal with the kids. Newsflash: he would give anything to be able to be there and “deal with” the kids.
So come on, let’s be serious. When you compare the two scenarios, how on earth could you possibly think that staying behind in the comfort of your safe home, with your family and friends nearby, could in any way be worse than deploying to a war zone in miserable living conditions? How narcissistic do you have to be to really believe that staying behind is worse?
Cassy doesn’t have a problem sharing her opinion and I am glad she addressed this issue. I agree 100% with her, and am glad someone came out to say this and that person is a spouse. Don’t get me wrong, being a spouse or any family member of a deployed soldiers is not easy, but it is by far not the “hardest”. I have been THAT deployed soldier a few times, and I have been the father of a deployed soldier so my opinion is based on experience. Cassy does a great job explaining her position so I encourage you to check it out.
To put it in perspective, if taking care of the kids is so bad, then why have them. Why not go join the French Foreign Legion or some mercenary group and travel the world waging war.
Read the whole post at YouServed: http://www.vamortgagecenter.com/blog/2012/08/22/get-real-spouses-dont-have-it-harder-than-servicemembers/#ixzz24JJztQFi